2013-02-26 08:04:46 by Public Relations staff, as posted on the inside.akronchildrens.org blog.
Divorce is always hard, but when children are involved, the transition can be even harder. Although your household may now be divided, you can still be united in guiding and supporting your kids.
Even if you and your ex-spouse have different parenting styles or rules, you can effectively discipline your children when they’re in your home.
“The most important thing you can do is to always put the children first,” said Dr. Geoffrey Putt, a pediatric psychologist and director of parenting and family support services at Akron Children’s Hospital. “Remember that it’s about the children and not about you as individuals who had a conflict.”
While divorced parents may share the same values and goals for their children, specific discipline styles can vary.
“Having the same goals for your children is the ideal, whether it’s making sure they are respectful or that they finish their homework so they can move ahead academically,” Dr Putt said.
If different rules exist in each parent’s house, children will learn to adapt.
“Consider how individual schoolteachers have different classroom rules or expectations, or that the math teacher is more strict than the science teacher, yet children adjust depending on the environment,” said Dr. Putt.
It’s more important that the rules and expectations you set for your home are consistently enforced. Although your children may complain, established rules, however unpopular, actually give kids a sense of security.
To provide effective discipline after divorce, Dr. Putt also recommends parents:
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