How Can I Stop Focusing on My Flaws?

How Can I Stop Focusing on My Flaws?

When people compliment me, I'm still not satisfied. I focus on my flaws and it makes me feel horrible. What are some tips for focusing on the good and not the bad?
- Jane*

One of the best ways to focus on the good is through working out. Exercising can really get you feeling better, both mentally and physically. If you start to feel down about yourself, try going for a run, shoot some hoops, or dance around your room to some favorite tunes. You'll probably feel your mood lift and you might not focus on your flaws.

You can also think about things you do well. These can include a favorite subject, a particular hobby, or a certain sport. Or maybe remember how good you felt when you did volunteer work, organized your closet, or gave advice to a friend.

When you feel down about yourself, take a good look at your accomplishments — big and small — and you'll realize there's much to be proud of, both inside and out.

Reviewed by: D'Arcy Lyness, PhD
Date reviewed: June 2012





Note: All information is for educational purposes only. For specific medical advice, diagnoses, and treatment, consult your doctor.

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