Should My Daughter Sleep in My Room After Having a Nightmare?

Should My Daughter Sleep in My Room After Having a Nightmare?

My 6-year-old daughter has been having nightmares, and often asks to come sleep in my bed. Is that OK?
- Elise

Nightmares are very common for kids so it's important to keep them in perspective and not let them become too big of a deal. A little comfort from you can go a long way toward helping your daughter feel better.

It's not necessary to let her come sleep in your bed or for you to sleep in her room after a nightmare. In fact, offering to let her sleep with you might send a subtle message that you don't believe she can feel safe alone. By helping her feel better and get back to sleep independently, you show confidence in her ability to tackle what she's afraid of. And that's a skill that she can lean on throughout life.

Other ways to make a child feel better after a nightmare:

Reviewed by: D'Arcy Lyness, PhD
Date reviewed: July 2013

Note: All information is for educational purposes only. For specific medical advice, diagnoses, and treatment, consult your doctor.

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