When Loved Ones Get Deployed

When Loved Ones Get Deployed

Lee este articulo

You've studied wars in class and learned how they've changed history. But learning about wars in class can be very different from hearing about conflicts and violence that break out in the world during our own time.

If someone you care about is in the military and is deployed for duty, it's natural to worry about their safety. That's especially true if the person is going to a place where there might be fighting.

Worries and Responsibilities

It's normal to worry. But if worry starts getting too intense, it can interfere with life. People who worry a lot might have trouble sleeping or eat more or less than before. It might be hard to stay focused on things like schoolwork.

Worrying about others can cause people to act in ways they normally wouldn't — like being short-tempered, forgetful, or distracted. Too much worrying also can cause physical problems, like headaches, stomachaches, or tightness in the chest.

If you have a parent or sibling in the military, it's also natural to think about how things will be different for you and your family while your loved one is away. If your parent is deployed, you may be asked to help out more at home.

When there's a lot to do, keeping up in school might be challenging. If you feel overwhelmed, ask family members for help. Let adults and siblings know that you need to find ways to balance your new tasks with studying. It can also help to tell your teachers and school counselor what's going on. They might be able to offer advice on how to handle everything and help you prioritize.

Ideas for Coping

Here are some tips to help you deal with your feelings:

It's natural to worry — at least some of the time — until your friend or relative is back home. Until then, keeping busy and taking care of your health can help make the wait seem faster.

Reviewed by: D'Arcy Lyness, PhD
Date reviewed: July 2015

Note: All information is for educational purposes only. For specific medical advice, diagnoses, and treatment, consult your doctor.

© 1995-2016 KidsHealth® All rights reserved.
Images provided by iStock, Getty Images, Corbis, Veer, Science Photo Library, Science Source Images, Shutterstock, and Clipart.com

Bookmark and Share

Related Resources
OrganizationAmerican Psychological Association (APA) The APA provides information and education about a variety of mental health issues for people of all ages.
Web SiteCenter for Mental Health Services (CMHS) CMHS is a federal agency that provides information about mental health to users of mental health services, their families, the general public, policy makers, providers, and the media.
Related Articles
School Counselors School counselors can give you all sorts of tips and support on solving problems and making good decisions. But how do you meet with a counselor and what is it like? Find out here.
Anxiety Disorders Anxiety is a natural part of life, and most of us experience it from time to time. But for some people, anxiety can be extreme.
Volunteering Volunteering gives you an opportunity to change lives, including your own. Get ideas on things you can do and tips on getting started in this article for teens.
About Serious Stress Serious stress can come from dealing with a personal crisis, a disaster, a health crisis, or a mental health condition that feels out of control. Here's what to do when stress gets really serious.
Talking to Your Parents - or Other Adults Whether it's an everyday issue like schoolwork or an emergency situation, these tips can help you improve communications with your parents and other adults.
Stress & Coping Center Visit our stress and coping center for advice on how to handle stress, including different stressful situations.
Stress There's good stress and bad stress. Find out what's what and learn practical ways to cope in this article.
Dealing With Anger Do you wonder why you fly off the handle so easily sometimes? Do you wish you knew healthier ways to express yourself when you're steamed? Check out this article for help with dealing with anger.
Developments Developments
Sign up for enewsletter
Get involved Get involved
Discover ways to support Akron Children's
Join the conversation Join the conversation
See what our patient families are saying